Think about the last time you were truly impressed by someone at work or in your community.
Was it their list of credentials?
Or was it that subtle way they handled a crisis, remembered everyone's concerns, or stood firm on an unpopular but correct decision?
Here's what actually creates lasting influence:
Those quiet, daily choices that others notice - even when you think they don't.
✨ I N S P I R E
"True influence never has to announce itself." - Susan Cain
*Side note: If you haven't yet read Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" and/or "Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole" - they are both excellent.
✨ T H R I V E
Here are 15 habits that quietly command respect:
1.What you say and what you do are in alignment
↳ Keep a "promises made vs kept" tracker in your notes app
2.You stay silent or leave the room during gossip
↳ Master the smooth exit: "I should prep for my next thing"
3.You confidently admit when you don't know something
↳ Use this: "I'll find out and circle back by EOD"
4.You accept responsibility easily, and give credit freely
↳ Start updates with "Thanks to X for making this possible"
5.You are consistently 2 minutes early
↳ Set every calendar alert 10 minutes ahead of time
6.You remember and repeat details from past conversations
↳ Create a quick "people details" folder in your phone
7.You apologize without the word "but"
↳ Practice this format: "You're right. I'm sorry. Here's my fix"
8.You defend unpopular but correct decisions
↳ Document your reasoning before the pushback comes
9.You celebrate others' wins like they're your own
↳ Set a daily reminder: "Who deserves recognition today?"
10.You remain steady and calm when things around you aren't
↳ Build in 5-minute buffers between every commitment
11.You ask questions instead of giving answers
↳ Lead with "Help me understand..." in tough conversations
12.You handle disappointment with quiet grace
↳ Keep a "lessons learned" note on your phone
13.You treat others with respect - regardless of position
↳ Learn one personal detail about everyone you work with
14.You speak well of others in their absence
↳ Replace criticism with "What they're excellent at is..."
15.You take feedback like a gift, not a threat
↳ Respond with "Thank you for helping me grow"
Your presence speaks louder than your credentials.
The most powerful influence is often silent ✨
Have a beautiful week,
Carolyn
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