Most of us think that the way to feel better is to change what's going on around us.
The way others behave (because... we definitely don't need to change, right?!)
Our possessions (new! more! better!)
We think, "If only xyz were different, then I could be happy".
And so we rely on these external things to make us feel good:
Reflection in the mirror
Weight on the scale
Job title etc...
And when they don't (because they CAN'T!), we end up disappointed and confused.
Any of the below ring a bell?
I know... me too.
But here's the real truth....
Relying on things outside of yourself to magically bring you happiness NEVER works.
Happiness comes from within.
So too does sadness, loneliness and fear.
We create ALL of these feelings with our thoughts.
* Good thoughts = Good feelings
* Unhelpful thoughts = Not so great feelings
The good news?
You are in control of your thoughts!
You get to choose what to think and therefore how you feel.
Choose your thoughts on purpose, with intention.
Start a journaling practice.
Start it TODAY. I'm serious.
It is the single most effective fast-track to figuring out what's going on in your brain. You will be shocked at what you find in there.
Which is great, because once you get over the surprise of how much negativity and long-held beliefs are in there sabotaging your happiness, then you can move forward from a place of awareness, deep understanding and clear insight.
✔️ Write down what you're thinking
✔️ Study your thoughts - learn which make you feel good, which don't
✔️ Continuously remind your brain to choose the ones that do. You created the negative thoughts, you can just as easily create more supportive ones ;)
Here's to recognizing that feeling good is an inside job.... You get to create it from within no matter what is going on around you.
Have a great week friends!